Not a Victim-Releasing Narcissistic Bonds
Not A Victim Blog clips for the future book, Not a Victim
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Love, Forgiveness and the Armor of God Story Blog-May
Nova was excited to see Rose. But why did Rose need to arrive so late in the evening?Nova was still hoping she could convince Rose to sleep downstairs. After all, it was fully set up with a bed, a closet and a bathroom. And it would give Rose her privacy. Not to mention, Nova would not have to give up her office. The time finally was here. Rose arrived, and as much as Nova tried to talk her into setting up in the basement, Rose insisted on setting up in the office. Rose just barged in and started moving Novas stuff out and around to make a spot for this…
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Love, Forgiveness and the Amor of God Story Blog, April
The visit is almost here. Less than a month away. Rose is pretty much ready, except that her husband is not going to be able to make it after all. She told her husband year’s ago, after one of the major flair ups, not to ever leave her alone with Nova again, ever! And here she was, volunteering to walk into the lions den, alone, for a whole month. Rose is older now, more life under her belt, closer to God than ever before, and knows what she’s dealing with. Not only is she bathing the whole situation in prayer, she’s planing her escape routes. A walk, a shower, going…
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Love, Forgiveness and the Armor of God Story Blog-February
Another month closer. Nova was getting exited and had so many ideas for this special time alone with her niece. She had the best spot for her to stay. Her basement. The basement had a full finished bathroom and Rose and her husband could have their privacy. At least that how Nova would sell it to Rose. Nova had her computer in the guest bedroom and that was her place to spend her quiet time, anytime of the night or day. She didn’t want to move the computer into her work room. Rose didn’t need that room, she could just stay in the basement. That would do her just fine.…
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Love, Forgiveness and the Armor of God- January
Story Blog, January 1, 2023 The preparation begins. Preparation for a one on one meeting. A meeting with an adversary so deep into itself that they barely notice the life sitting next to them. It’s been years since they shared this time alone, together. And it was frightening. At least frightening for one of them. As for Nova, she was excited for this meeting to take place. It couldn’t take place any quicker as far as she was concerned. She had an agenda, she had a list of to do items longer than a monthly grocery receipt. And that’s not all. She finally had control, the one thing she’d been…
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Not A Victim Story Blog
Being removed from the narcissist is healthy and strength building. Although this can’t always be achieved, it is definitely something to strive for. In order for this to work some important things need to be understood and at peace with. Forgiveness, a healthy distance, a proper attitude, and most importantly, rooted in Gods love and His Word. To bring this to a personal level, the time has come for me to move to the next step. As I forward to an unnerving reality of purposely putting my self directly in the front lines of the Enemy’s camp, I do so very carefully. This will mean putting on the full armor…
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Not a Victim #12: Narcissism, it’s all around us
I’m almost afraid to write another blog about narcissistic personalities. Do you see it, or is it just me? It’s all around us. It’s a pandemic in itself. Although we don’t understand why God allows what He does, we need to know that He’s God, He knows all, we do not. As I look back on my life, I see how my life experiences are preparing me for what’s going on now, in our world, all around us. It’s sad but I don’t seem to be shocked anymore. There are so many topics that can be mentioned here, but the one topic I want to touch on in this blog…
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Not a Victim #11: The Calm in the Storm
So things have mellowed out and I’m feeling pretty confident. Though I’m afraid to make waves in fear that all will come crashing down in a breath. Does everyone live life like this? Is this normal? Am I being over dramatic? Am I being a baby? Am I expecting life to be a dream, a fairytale? After all I did grow up engulfed by the television. It was my world for a long time. Maybe that was my escape from my surroundings. Is it me? Am I being selfish? Am I the reason our relationship doesn’t work? These are the lies the enemy wants us to believe. Then there’s the…
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Not a Victim #10: How to Be Strong When Confronted By a Narcissistic Personality?
James 4:11-12 Don’t criticize one another, brothers. He who criticizes a brother or judges his brother criticizes the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. The | Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB) 10 important things to know, to be Strong Know who’s you are Know who you are in Christ Know who is in control Know who the enemy is Pray Be in Gods Word Keep eyes off of self Walk away before the mouth goes a direction it shouldn’t Let go of the bitterness Forgive These sound easy enough. And with Faith and Trust…
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Not a Victim #9 The Egg, the Carrot, and the Coffee Bean
Taken the end of 2020…in Yosemite area…during a pandemic, after wild fires, wind storms, and insect infestation. Sad, yet new life and beauty begins again… There’s this object lesson that I’ve held on to for years. In fact I’m sure I’ve written about it in my previous blogs. This object lesson is a very popular story. The first time I heard this story was when I was teaching our youth group at our church, years ago. As a teacher, I think I learned more from this lesson than the youth did. In fact, I would be surprised if any of them even remembered this particular lesson. But it is an…
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Not a victim #8 Knowing who you are In Christ
Psalms 139:14 “I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well.” In my last post I mentioned I was going to blog about how to live with a narcissistic personality type, not change them. First let me clarify here that I am not an expert! God is! He made each of us! He’s the only one who can change any of us. He’s ruler over the physical AND spiritual realms! With that being said, let me first emphasize the importance of this first step… And the reason I can share this with authority is because it comes…