Not a Victim #2

“For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. My bones were not hidden from You when I was made in secret, when I was formed in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw me when I was formless; all my days were written in Your book and planned before a single one of them began. God, how difficult Your thoughts are for me to comprehend; how vast their sum is!”

Psalms 139:13-17 HCSB

God knows everyone of us! He loves us and wants us to be with Him forever. He gave us His son Jesus so we can do just that, be with Him forever. He loves us that much! 

Love, Gods Love for me and you!! What does Love have to do with narcissism? Personally, I feel that a narcissistic relationship is void of Love. When growing up in a narcissistic driven family, one does not know what true “Love” is. Maybe they know a superficial love, a love that is known mostly in our world today. 

When a glimpse of Love shines through in a narcissistic driven family, it is quickly suffocated out, humiliated and kicked off to the side. But true Love is the Light, Truth, God Himself. And true Love can not be hidden! It can not be contained. 

God blessed me with a loving Husband against all odds. He blessed us with twins, He blessed our family with a loving church. I accepted Christ at the age of 21, at the table in our kitchen. I saw that there was a Love in this world that I knew nothing about. I felt that Love all around me, yet I didn’t know how to show that kind of Love. So I prayed, I prayed for God to show me how to Love, really Love. And He did! He showed me through our church, His people. 

Gods answer came quickly, in a rather strange and what I thought, an unconventional way. Some would argue, a controversial way. Yet this lesson on Love sticks with me still today. And my hope is that it has flowed through me to others throughout the years and will continue for many more. 

My dad had a massive heart attack.  He was in a comma for two weeks. He had recently experienced a major ugly divorce from my mom. I was nursing our twin three month olds at the time, and we only had one car. We were active in our church home, who were already showing us leaps of Love and support. But they took it a step further! The families in the church worked it out so I could get to the hospital, they would take care of the twins, and had dinner for us every night. For two weeks! Every single day for two weeks! My husband didn’t miss a day of work. Our babies were taken care of and I was able to keep nursing them.  I was able to spend that time at the hospital and be there when my dad woke up out of his coma. 

Nobody in my entire life had ever done anything like that before, ever.  God showed me what selfless Love was, pure unselfish, unexpected, miraculous Love. 

Again, what has this to do with narcissistic people? Why is this important to a person on the receiving end of a narcissistic behavior? 

To break the cycle.

To be Loved by God and others.

To have a healthy relationship with others.

We need to be rooted in Gods Love!

We need to experience Gods Love!

Gods Love is miraculous!

Gods Love is Indescribable!

Gods Love is Awesome with extra “AWE”!

This gives us strength, Gods strength to know we are Loved as US, just as we are! God made us and knows us and Loves us!

Don’t let anybody else tell you or make you feel any differently!

Not a Victim!