• Not a Victim-Releasing Narcissistic Bonds

    Not A Victim Story Blog 

    Being removed from the narcissist is healthy and strength building. Although this can’t always be achieved, it is definitely something to strive for. In order for this to work some important things need to be understood and at peace with. Forgiveness, a healthy distance, a proper attitude, and most importantly, rooted in Gods love and His Word. To bring this to a personal level, the time has come for me to move to the next step. As I forward to an unnerving reality of purposely putting my self directly in the front lines of the Enemy’s camp, I do so very carefully. This will mean putting on the full armor…

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    The End Is Near!!

    The End of 2022 that is.  Years ago as I watched the Jestsons and Lost in Space I thought 2023 was way out there, in more ways than one. The past couple of years have been a rollercoaster ride to say the least. Nobody needs to be into politics to see the craziness and to feel the squeeze! It doesn’t matter who you are, where you are from, what you believe, or what your status is in this world. We all feel it one way or another. In my devotions the other day I heard something that really stuck with me. I’ve started a devotion series that start in the…

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    Prayers Are Incense in Heaven, How Holy Are Our Prayers

    Revelation 5:8 When He took the scroll, the four living creatures and the 24 elders fell down before the Lamb. Each one had a harp and gold bowls filled with incense, which are the prayers of the saints. | Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB) When I heard this verse in a recent devotion, I had a WOW moment. A realization came to me that My prayers are important, and they are treasures held in heaven as sacred incense. It puts a whole new perspective on prayer.  As I read through the Bible yet again, I continue to learn new things. Gods Word is surly alive! I’m not a scholar, I…

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    Not a Victim #12: Narcissism, it’s all around us 

    I’m almost afraid to write another blog about narcissistic personalities. Do you see it, or is it just me? It’s all around us. It’s a pandemic in itself. Although we don’t understand why God allows what He does, we need to know that He’s God, He knows all, we do not. As I look back on my life, I see how my life experiences are preparing me for what’s going on now, in our world, all around us. It’s sad but I don’t seem to be shocked anymore.  There are so many topics that can be mentioned here, but the one topic I want to touch on in this blog…

  • Not a Victim-Releasing Narcissistic Bonds

    Not a Victim #11: The Calm in the Storm

    So things have mellowed out and I’m feeling pretty confident. Though I’m afraid to make waves in fear that all will come crashing down in a breath. Does everyone live life like this? Is this normal? Am I being over dramatic? Am I being a baby? Am I expecting life to be a dream, a fairytale? After all I did grow up engulfed by the television. It was my world for a long time. Maybe that was my escape from my surroundings. Is it me? Am I being selfish? Am I the reason our relationship doesn’t work? These are the lies the enemy wants us to believe. Then there’s the…

  • Not a Victim-Releasing Narcissistic Bonds

    Not a Victim #10: How to Be Strong When Confronted By a Narcissistic Personality?

    James 4:11-12 Don’t criticize one another, brothers. He who criticizes a brother or judges his brother criticizes the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. The | Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB) 10 important things to know, to be Strong Know who’s you are  Know who you are in Christ  Know who is in control Know who the enemy is Pray Be in Gods Word Keep eyes off of self Walk away before the mouth goes a direction it shouldn’t  Let go of the bitterness  Forgive  These sound easy enough. And with Faith and Trust…

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    I Have a Secret

    1 Thessalonians 5:17-18 Pray constantly. Give thanks in everything, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. As most of us do, I do have a secret. I’ll share this with you and be perfectly honest.  I am not a good prayer warrior. Yea you heard me right. I am not eloquent with my words, or have powerful prayers. But one thing I will assure you, when I say I’m going to pray, I will pray. When I am asked to pray for somebody or something, I will pray. I pray often, as I remember, or as God reminds me.  My prayers are simply talking to God. Yes…

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    The How: Spiritual Gifts

    “Based on the gift each one has received, use it to serve others, as good managers of the varied grace of God. If anyone speaks, it should be as one who speaks God’s words; if anyone serves, it should be from the strength God provides, so that God may be glorified through Jesus Christ in everything. To Him belong the glory and the power forever and ever. Amen.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭4:10-11‬ ‭HCSB‬‬ https://bible.com/bible/72/1pe.4.10-11.HCSB While studying Spiritual Gifts in Gods Word, preparing for these blogs, instead of feeling more educated on the subject, I’m feeling more inadequate. (There are so many different takes on Spiritual Gifts. There are many reputable studies…

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    Happy Mothers Day 2022!

    I want to tell you a story of when I made Mother of the Year at our church. No, this is not a bragging story about myself. This is a story of self pity, a lack of faith, and listening to the enemy. This is a true story and happened many years ago. Back when we had three boys. A set of twins and a single. I was homeschooling them at that point in time, the twins were in second grade and our single in kindergarten. To give some backstory, I had always wanted a girl. I had a girls name picked out since I can remember. With having three…

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    Happy Easter Week 2022

    What is Easter? I remember as a child, we would dress up in pretty bonnets and dresses with our shiny new shoes. The boys would wear ties and either fancy shorts or dress pants. And families would have matching outfits. Easter was a special day for our whole family to go to church.  At that time Easter was all about the Easter bunny and all the chocolate candy he was going to leave in our baskets, and Easter egg hunts, loved those Easter egg hunts.  When I was a teen and young adult, I would practice lent. I’d choose something to give up for lent. Most of the time it…